No, I didn’t say this, it is the title I pulled from Psychology Today. Like I said on my Facebook page, make this a self-critique while reading this article. Greater benefits come from knowing yourself, than by just learning to better read the other person. So few of us, honestly, recognize those fabrications we made even in the course of short comments. It was to fraud the other, but to better frame self.
I don’t see that type of common behavior as “wrong” but rather the groundwork we look for in that other person. Which of us doesn’t listen for common threads in that other person’s conversation? We all listen for those fabrications meant to support the point.
As you critique yourself, in this area of life, do so without intending to stop lying. Work at catching sight of your own fabrications and so your vulnerability to what you hope for with the other.